How Am I Going
To Do This?
…God Will Carry You
The Lord will never leave us
nor forsake us,
He promised He’d be with us through it all.
It often seems He’s walking right beside us
As he guides us through our problems
large and small.
But there are times we just can’t feel His presence,
When the road’s so rough,
we need Him all the more.
We wonder why we’re so alone and helpless,
Why His hand’s not there to lead us as before…
But if we listen quietly, He’ll tell us,
“Take a moment and remember what I said:
If you fail to see me walking right beside you,
It’s because I have you in my arms instead,
For together, we will cross the highest mountain,
Together we will face the stormy sea,
You never are alone, you’re never helpless!
I’ll carry you,
let go and lean on me.”
He is with you…even in this time of sorrow
too deep for words.
A Mother’s Love
I didn’t have to look into your eyes
to fall in love with you.
I didn’t need to hear you cry
to know you loved me too.
I didn’t need to hold your hand
to cherish you for always.
Within my womb, we shared our hearts.
You touched my soul.
You sweetened my spirit.
You gave me memories I’ll always hold dear.
Yes. My heart aches since you departed too soon.
But a mother’s love does not end with death.
For you are my child.
Forever my love is yours.
Help From Those Who Have ‘Been There’
Both of your twins were
meant to be or you would
never have become pregnant with them.
It is very important to tell others to acknowledge them both. Once a mother of twins, always a mother of twins. Nothing could, did, or will ever change the bond between a mommy and her babies. You will always be as one. And, your babies will always be twins.
Let others know that they can never fully understand
the depth of your sorrow.
Say to them:
“If you love me, then trust me… that this is what I need from you.
It is not about what others think is best for me.”
Ask them to listen.
It is a matter of trust.
It Is About How You Walk Away, Not The Other Person
We have all been there
when you gather all the strength you have to go outside only to
have someone approach you and ask you, “How old is your baby?’
This is the most painful question because it should be “How
old are your babies?” Sometimes the scenario is slightly different
but it always comes on quickly and out of the blue. The best answer
is, “My twins were born 4 months ago”, or however the
time. Bringing up both of your babies does set you up to most likely
hear the “At least you have one” statement, but you
need to care more about how you walk away from this situation then
the other person. If you answer the way we suggest, you will be
proud of yourself that you stood up for your baby that passed away.
If you don’t, you will most likely hate yourself and take
3 days to work through it. Why live for strangers, or even for our
closest family and friends. They have not been through this. If
they say, “At least you have one” say that is hurtful.
Of course I am grateful for my baby, but he lost his brother or
she lost her sister and they are important too. Tell them, just
to say they are sorry. Unfortunately, we have to teach others how
to help us. Remember, stand up for yourself and your babies. Keep
their twinship because that is the reality.